History in my life!

I have ever had my heart broken, it is an incredibly painful and saddening experience. It often feels like one's heart is broken and will never heal. It may seem at times that I will never recover from the experience and be happy again. Although the scars may still remain, there are many things I do to help recover from a broken heart.

I have been thru stages of grieving including, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. Thank to all my friends around me. They help me during the most difficult time. I know my life will get better, the pain will end, and I will find happiness again.

My god sister fav's quote:

Give yourself time; be patient with the process; take care of yourself.
You will survive and life will get better.When the sun sets, it always rises again!

There are eight things I done that help me to recover during difficult time.

1. Stop all communication, interaction, discussion, emails, phone calls, and texts. Get rid of all gifts, mementos and pictures. Delete his address, photos, and various online accounts from my life. This may seem difficult but it is one of the best ways to move on. If I keep the wound open, it will hurt. The sooner I allow the scab to form, which I do by leaving it alone, the better.

2. Take care of myself. This is a time where I need to do everything to stay healthy. While breaking up can lead to depression that often make me feel tired, lethargic, and depleted, sometimes even eating enormous amounts of junk food, sleeping too long, staying up too late, this is a time to make sure I can to nourish myself. Eat nutritiously, sleep sufficiently. I did not use drugs or alcohol to repress the pain. It will only make it worse in the long run.

3. Allow myself to cry. I tend to think crying is inappropriate or uncomfortable, and I certainly try to avoid it but crying is a release. It releases chemicals and emotions from my bodies so let myself cry. Again, ignoring, repressing, denying the pain is not helpful and can make it worse in the long run. I want to release the pain not cover it up or hold it in.

4.Get the feelings out.I find a need to express my sorrow and hurt. I will find talking with friends, journaling, or even blogging about the pain helps. There is on one way, so find whatever helps me get the emotions out and let them go.

5.Keep busy. While when in pain, I often want to stop everything and hide from the world, it often helps to remained engaged in life. I used to shut myself off from the world tends to make things worse. Then I realise do the things I typically enjoy, shopping, spa, surfing net, reading blog, take some enrichment classes, or go on a trip, NOT TO RUN AWAY but to stay engaged.

6.Surround myself with love. This can be friends, family, loved ones, or whomever you find that nourishes, supports, and comforts me. I often take a break up personally, and start second guessing myself, feeling unworthy, and insecure. Being close to good friends who will assure me that I'm still so wonderful and most impt still in good hand! I always reach out to those who can help and allow others(you know who!) to be there for me.

7.Always give myself time. When im physically hurt, my body require time to heal. So too with emotional pain. It takes time to release them and to rebalance my body. I always give myself time, knowing my body and mind are brilliant and will take care of me as process the pain.

8.There is life after this relationship. While in the midst of the pain of a break up, it often feels like life is over and there will never be a good day ahead but the truth is, I will get over this and will find my happiness again. Hold onto the hope even if it does not feel like the pain will ever end. Remind myself that I have been through difficult times before and I will get through this as well.

FINALLY! Make Better Choices, And Find a Really Terrific Man! Woo Hoo!!!

Vittles:Satursday Hangout Place

My lemon lime for the night

I was raking my brain where to bring CBM and gang for supper - it was a gathering after everyone is available from New Year visiting. Being a Satursday, I wanted somewhere nearby, not crowded and most impt free parking.

This little diner up North is going to put a smile on many faces. It's the latest "Value for Money" diner which has recently opened in Sembawang barely 2 months ago and judging from the quality of the food and the prices, I can only say that it has all the qualities of another Astons in the making.

We loved the free popcorn that we can help ourself to as we are waiting for the food as well as the nachos and fries.

Food is great value and on top of that, there is no GST or service charge. I think this place is poised to do very well.

Valentine's Day Present

All my Valentine's gifts from my colleagues

Handmade Flower from Melinda(Thank so much! Brighten up my day)

My colleagues surprising me with small gifts and a handmade flower on this special day. Is another year of great friendship.

Chinese New Year

Hahaha...Yeap, it's a long holiday for us! all the working peeps out there, that's all we care about right? forget the angpows.. (ever since we've started working, doncha all feel that our angpow money seems sooo meagre suddenly right? haha) it's really more about the gambling and food! hahaha..

It's going to be officially the new RAT year.

oh oh.. before i forget - 新年快乐!!!

This year, i've decided to stay away from my favourite cny goodie - Because i read from a magazine that the most fattening snack out are all the usual cny goodies!!!!! can't tell right?! blame the coconut content man!

HALL OF CALORIES -
1. he-bi hiam (the sambal prawn cracker rolled in tiny cylinders) <- killer snack, lucky i don't fancy this! hehe..
2. kueh bankit (white, powdery cookie that melts in your mouth)
3. pineapple tarts
4. love letters i can't remm the rest of the list.. but it's enough to strike out a few of my favourite cny snacks this year. :( though i still can't resist love letters haha!

"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"

I think it'll be good to read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"to know what the opposite sex really want in a relationship... bcos i read and learnt a lot from it. haha

Ok basically the book begins with that long long ago, men lived in mars, and women lived in Venus. These are 2 very different places and these habitats have very different cultures.

On Mars, Martians do not offer each other help unless asked. when being asked, a martian will offer solutions to the qns. If a martian didn't ask for help, the others assume that he's ok and trust that he's coping well by himself. Martians love to solve their own problems without interference from another.

On Venus, Venusians love to help one another. They willingly offer help to one another without being asked. Venusians don't really ask for help. When they are down, the others will auto come and cheer her up. Venusians give without being asked. They can sense unhappiness, and they'll try to help and console.

Martians and Venusians met, fell in love and lived happily together. One day, they migrate to earth and suddenly all got amnesia... and forgotten that they originate from different planets with different cultures. They start to expect each other to think like themselves and but they are ultimately very different! So there's a lot of frustrations.

When woman upset, man dun auto cheer her up cos she didn't ask him. If she talked about it, she just want to feel better after he listened, but he'll offer solutions instead of consolations. Bcos man instinctively thought that u r asking for solutions when u talked to him. Woman is unhappy cos man dun console her. Man is frustrated cos he tried to help her but she's still unhappy.

When man upset, woman tried to help without being asked. she kept asking him what's wrong? why he unhappy? and he felt very annoyed by her cos he just want to be left alone. Then when he didn't ask and she tried to offer help for his problem, he felt that she doesn't trust him to solve the problem himself. He is not happy. Woman think man is damn ego. Man think woman is naggy and annoying.

So ultimately men and women should realise that they are very different and think differently, respect the differences and seek to understand each other better. When woman knows that man is like that one, woman won't get so upset cos she understand that he is different. When man knows that woman is like that, man know she's just caring to him when she tried to help, and won't feel so frustrated and annoyed by her.

There are lots more things discussed in this book, so i think the book sort of help us understand the opp gender better, and it only works if both read. I personally feel that it's helpful but only if both parties read the book. Bcos it takes 2 hands to clap and both hv to strive towards understanding each other better and work towards a blissful love life together..

k la, so much for a sneak preview.

Human Character

Character is the expression of the personality of a human being, and that it reveals itself in his conduct. In this sense every man has a character

I’ve always been wondering whether human character is born, or its a matter of brought up, or friends surrounding us…

If the quote above is right, such that character is the expression of the personality of a human being, then I guess what I’ve always choose to believe is wrong… We can never mould someone to be the person we want them to be…

I believe a person’s character is both. The result of who God made you to be and your upbringing/environment, especially in your formative years of youth. I once heard from someone that character is 30% nature and 70% nurture. It cannot be entirely nature because then we can just throw moral education completely out of the window. A child picks up much of what he/she knows from people of influence who spend the most time with him/her. We can’t change a person, because they’re not ours to change in the first place. But it does not mean that they can’t change. It just takes effort on their part and they must make the choice to change.We can never change a person that we want them to be, we had to accept who they are and direct them to the correct path is enough already isnt it ???

My Macau Trip in Nov-Dec 2007

Oh gosh! When I looked back and it seems like I haven't updated my blog for a long time ..Oops!! Work is taking up a wee-bit of time... Sorry abt that :(

Here are some updates of my Macau trip in Nov-Dec 2007. The hotel is superb! I enjoyed my stay there. Hereby, I should share some pics of The Venetian Macao.