Should the Guy Always Pay the Bill for Dates?

I had a conversation with J over the phone few days ago. She confides one of the r/s issue some of us might faces.
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J: Girl, I couldnt tahan him anymore, he want equality extends to everything. He expects me to pay my share on a date.
Me: huh.....erm....You could always split the bill, but I think it’s more fun to give him a treat once a while. No harm trying.
J: Wei....It’s the guy’s job to be the provider, dont you think so?
Me: Ya, but if you are counting every cents to keep it all even, its never going to work out in the end anyway.
J: OH HELL NO. The friggin guy should always pay what!!
Me: Aiyo, I think it’s sweet if the guy wants to pay, but I would never expect it. It’s nice when a man is a genleman and is just NICE loh...
J: Girl, do you have this issues or not?
Me: Most of the time the guy won’t let me pay for dinner de loh.....
J: Wah liew, you're really a lucky girl man!!! What’s wrong with my guy?
Me: I think that the answer is simple. You give what you can la... I guess they can probably tell that I spent a lot in my SK II products ,so if they afford to foot the bills, why not loh...
J: You wont understand de, I don’t want “equality”...When I was dating, my policy was that I wouldn’t date someone again if they expected me to pay.
Me: Argh! Why do you want to make everyone stress about this? I’m not saying a guy or girl can’t treat, but never ever expect it. You can always asked him to pays when going out to eat. HOWEVER, not on a regular basic, maybe twice a week. You can pay for all of the groceries, food stuff, snacks or get him something that he needs (like herbal tea during bad weather or socks if you see a hole)or shower him with presents or gifts. It will works well for both of you, and I think it’s fair.
J: aha.. sound gd hor.... Woman love to shop for guys too... You finally sort out my though...
Me: Aiyo, give and take is more impt! If he pay for the date then it’s great for you but do appreciate the gesture k...
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New phone

I finally got a new phone, the Samsung Omnia i900, which is really cool. I am already having lots of fun with it at the same time learning to use its features.




I havent gotten around to take a photo of it though some of the photos taken with the phone had been uploaded on my album.

Sheer indecisiveness

I look forward to going out this weekend but today he told me that he's not sure if he wanted to go without any reason why and that he expects me to know. By him saying that, I already more or less know that we wont be making planning to anywhere at all.

At this point, because everything with him is on pending status, I cant even plan for my own schedule. Sometimes I just understand why he cant make up his mind over something as simple as this, like how enthusiastic he was about going out with me.

Because he is undecisive, I figured that at the end I'd probably end up staying home over the weekend because everything else would either be too expensive or fully booked that there isnt anywhere else really to go.

Guess I need to look into delta(which means back up plan)! I need to de-stress!!!

We shall see how it goes.

Back at work

I came back to work yesterday although not fully recovered but I know I cant afford to rest anymore at home as my bosses probably wont like it. Besides there's alot of things I need to follow up. I came back to work finding 167 emails in my mailbox, which is alot but manage to get them all answered.

However, my brain isnt working as well as I would like to as I am still tired. For some reason or another, my entire body is aching is mad and I wished someone was here to give me that much needed massage.....................

Shoes

Like most women, I have this thing for shoes. I do have alot of shoes some of which only worn once some never. I got this habit from my mum. Mum used to owns 9 cabinets full of shoes back home. Being her only daughter, I guess it is only fair that I got this habit from her.

Why does a woman have to have so many pairs of shoes?

Because we wanted to match with the multi-colored clothes which we own. Sometimes I even ask myself why do I keep buying shoes? I just simply go crazy when I see shoes that fits me. I think was only a natural progressive after grown up. I accumulated more shoes when I started working since there's nothing much to do except shopping then. It doesnt help as well that I always went out with someone who loves shopping and shoes equally.

I had 3 big boxes (similiar to those DHL 25kg jumbo box) filled with shoes (that's after throwing/giving away some). Most of these shoes, are currently stacked in another cabinet in my room for reasons that these are rather out of trend shoes to wear now or not really suit me now.

Due recent recession and pay cut, seeing the shoes at the sales made me go crazy. In the end I have to make a choice. I am certainly going back for somemore after this period is over....hehe...its hard to resist shoe shopping...haha...