I had a conversation with J over the phone few days ago. She confides one of the r/s issue some of us might faces.
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J: Girl, I couldnt tahan him anymore, he want equality extends to everything. He expects me to pay my share on a date.
Me: huh.....erm....You could always split the bill, but I think it’s more fun to give him a treat once a while. No harm trying.
J: Wei....It’s the guy’s job to be the provider, dont you think so?
Me: Ya, but if you are counting every cents to keep it all even, its never going to work out in the end anyway.
J: OH HELL NO. The friggin guy should always pay what!!
Me: Aiyo, I think it’s sweet if the guy wants to pay, but I would never expect it. It’s nice when a man is a genleman and is just NICE loh...
J: Girl, do you have this issues or not?
Me: Most of the time the guy won’t let me pay for dinner de loh.....
J: Wah liew, you're really a lucky girl man!!! What’s wrong with my guy?
Me: I think that the answer is simple. You give what you can la... I guess they can probably tell that I spent a lot in my SK II products ,so if they afford to foot the bills, why not loh...
J: You wont understand de, I don’t want “equality”...When I was dating, my policy was that I wouldn’t date someone again if they expected me to pay.
Me: Argh! Why do you want to make everyone stress about this? I’m not saying a guy or girl can’t treat, but never ever expect it. You can always asked him to pays when going out to eat. HOWEVER, not on a regular basic, maybe twice a week. You can pay for all of the groceries, food stuff, snacks or get him something that he needs (like herbal tea during bad weather or socks if you see a hole)or shower him with presents or gifts. It will works well for both of you, and I think it’s fair.
J: aha.. sound gd hor.... Woman love to shop for guys too... You finally sort out my though...
Me: Aiyo, give and take is more impt! If he pay for the date then it’s great for you but do appreciate the gesture k...
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Friday, June 19, 2009
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
New phone
I finally got a new phone, the Samsung Omnia i900, which is really cool. I am already having lots of fun with it at the same time learning to use its features.
I havent gotten around to take a photo of it though some of the photos taken with the phone had been uploaded on my album.
I havent gotten around to take a photo of it though some of the photos taken with the phone had been uploaded on my album.
Friday, June 5, 2009
Sheer indecisiveness
I look forward to going out this weekend but today he told me that he's not sure if he wanted to go without any reason why and that he expects me to know. By him saying that, I already more or less know that we wont be making planning to anywhere at all.
At this point, because everything with him is on pending status, I cant even plan for my own schedule. Sometimes I just understand why he cant make up his mind over something as simple as this, like how enthusiastic he was about going out with me.
Because he is undecisive, I figured that at the end I'd probably end up staying home over the weekend because everything else would either be too expensive or fully booked that there isnt anywhere else really to go.
Guess I need to look into delta(which means back up plan)! I need to de-stress!!!
We shall see how it goes.
At this point, because everything with him is on pending status, I cant even plan for my own schedule. Sometimes I just understand why he cant make up his mind over something as simple as this, like how enthusiastic he was about going out with me.
Because he is undecisive, I figured that at the end I'd probably end up staying home over the weekend because everything else would either be too expensive or fully booked that there isnt anywhere else really to go.
Guess I need to look into delta(which means back up plan)! I need to de-stress!!!
We shall see how it goes.
Back at work
I came back to work yesterday although not fully recovered but I know I cant afford to rest anymore at home as my bosses probably wont like it. Besides there's alot of things I need to follow up. I came back to work finding 167 emails in my mailbox, which is alot but manage to get them all answered.
However, my brain isnt working as well as I would like to as I am still tired. For some reason or another, my entire body is aching is mad and I wished someone was here to give me that much needed massage.....................Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Shoes
Like most women, I have this thing for shoes. I do have alot of shoes some of which only worn once some never. I got this habit from my mum. Mum used to owns 9 cabinets full of shoes back home. Being her only daughter, I guess it is only fair that I got this habit from her.
Why does a woman have to have so many pairs of shoes?
Because we wanted to match with the multi-colored clothes which we own. Sometimes I even ask myself why do I keep buying shoes? I just simply go crazy when I see shoes that fits me. I think was only a natural progressive after grown up. I accumulated more shoes when I started working since there's nothing much to do except shopping then. It doesnt help as well that I always went out with someone who loves shopping and shoes equally.
I had 3 big boxes (similiar to those DHL 25kg jumbo box) filled with shoes (that's after throwing/giving away some). Most of these shoes, are currently stacked in another cabinet in my room for reasons that these are rather out of trend shoes to wear now or not really suit me now.
Due recent recession and pay cut, seeing the shoes at the sales made me go crazy. In the end I have to make a choice. I am certainly going back for somemore after this period is over....hehe...its hard to resist shoe shopping...haha...
Why does a woman have to have so many pairs of shoes?
Because we wanted to match with the multi-colored clothes which we own. Sometimes I even ask myself why do I keep buying shoes? I just simply go crazy when I see shoes that fits me. I think was only a natural progressive after grown up. I accumulated more shoes when I started working since there's nothing much to do except shopping then. It doesnt help as well that I always went out with someone who loves shopping and shoes equally.
I had 3 big boxes (similiar to those DHL 25kg jumbo box) filled with shoes (that's after throwing/giving away some). Most of these shoes, are currently stacked in another cabinet in my room for reasons that these are rather out of trend shoes to wear now or not really suit me now.
Due recent recession and pay cut, seeing the shoes at the sales made me go crazy. In the end I have to make a choice. I am certainly going back for somemore after this period is over....hehe...its hard to resist shoe shopping...haha...
Friday, May 22, 2009
Thoughts on Dad
I know Father's day is still like another few weeks away. Here goes my post on my dad.
Being his only daughter, it was obvious to people who knew the family that I was his "little princess", always is and always will be, I know that for a fact.
Because my dad spent most part of his young life providing for the father, I didnt get that close to him until I finished secondary school. That's when I began to see things through his perspective.
As I grew older, I find myself becoming closer to both my parents particularly my dad. I find myself missing him more than ever these days, so unlike previously I speak to my dad (or rather my parents) at least 5 times a week if not daily.
When I was much younger, example: in my sec school days, I could not understand why dad restricted me from doing some things but now when I think back, I find myself being very thankful for his "protectiveness", otherwise, I would not be who or where I am today.
Being an only daughter, I admit that my dad was a bit protective of me. I didnt go to a formal party until I was about 21 or so and my curfew was 10pm and my mummy called my friend's house every 30 minutes to check on me. I was embarassed by that fact then but then I realised now that they are doing it all for my own good and because they love me.
Over the last few years, I was taken aback by how much more liberal my dad had been. When my mum started questioning me about relationship and my intentions to eventually settle down, dad chided mum and told her to let me decide myself.
Sometimes I think could it because of age that he no longer want to bother about my life or it is because he trust me?? Curious on a recent phone conversation, I asked him this question to which he replied, "It is not age, its because I trust you know what's right and wrong and what matters to me is that as always you make me feel so proud of you." It was nice to hear such encouraging words from someone who barely spoke.
My dad always say that "no where is better than home", if "no man can provide you with a safe and warmth home, i can".... My dad will always be the first person I run back to when I am faced with problems. All my life, he had been the person who is the first to celebrate my successes and heal my failures.
The bond which I started with my dad cannot be ever replaced even by anything else. Once, my bf asked if i were given a choice between him or my dad. My replied to him is, i would have choosen my dad anytime because I know that he will never let me walk through life's alone.
Perhaps it is time for each and everyone of us to reflect on our dad and to appreciate the many things that he had done for us.
To my dad and all Father's out there, Happy Father's Day (in advance) and have fun!
Being his only daughter, it was obvious to people who knew the family that I was his "little princess", always is and always will be, I know that for a fact.
Because my dad spent most part of his young life providing for the father, I didnt get that close to him until I finished secondary school. That's when I began to see things through his perspective.
As I grew older, I find myself becoming closer to both my parents particularly my dad. I find myself missing him more than ever these days, so unlike previously I speak to my dad (or rather my parents) at least 5 times a week if not daily.
When I was much younger, example: in my sec school days, I could not understand why dad restricted me from doing some things but now when I think back, I find myself being very thankful for his "protectiveness", otherwise, I would not be who or where I am today.
Being an only daughter, I admit that my dad was a bit protective of me. I didnt go to a formal party until I was about 21 or so and my curfew was 10pm and my mummy called my friend's house every 30 minutes to check on me. I was embarassed by that fact then but then I realised now that they are doing it all for my own good and because they love me.
Over the last few years, I was taken aback by how much more liberal my dad had been. When my mum started questioning me about relationship and my intentions to eventually settle down, dad chided mum and told her to let me decide myself.
Sometimes I think could it because of age that he no longer want to bother about my life or it is because he trust me?? Curious on a recent phone conversation, I asked him this question to which he replied, "It is not age, its because I trust you know what's right and wrong and what matters to me is that as always you make me feel so proud of you." It was nice to hear such encouraging words from someone who barely spoke.
My dad always say that "no where is better than home", if "no man can provide you with a safe and warmth home, i can".... My dad will always be the first person I run back to when I am faced with problems. All my life, he had been the person who is the first to celebrate my successes and heal my failures.
The bond which I started with my dad cannot be ever replaced even by anything else. Once, my bf asked if i were given a choice between him or my dad. My replied to him is, i would have choosen my dad anytime because I know that he will never let me walk through life's alone.
Perhaps it is time for each and everyone of us to reflect on our dad and to appreciate the many things that he had done for us.
To my dad and all Father's out there, Happy Father's Day (in advance) and have fun!
Monday, May 18, 2009
Lazy Monday
For some reason or another, I am feeling very lazy today. I am not in the mood for anything at all not even really to do work. All I wanted to do is sleep. I went to bed at about 10 last night but throughout the night, my phone had been beeping with smses and calls, which woke me up and...my phone has this very annoying white blinking light.
Maybe it is time for another retreat.....Someone had promised that we'll go somewhere one of the weekends in June during the school holidays. Am keeping my fingers crossed for the moment.
Maybe it is time for another retreat.....Someone had promised that we'll go somewhere one of the weekends in June during the school holidays. Am keeping my fingers crossed for the moment.
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